From my journal dated April 4, 2002:

I am so thankful for Janice. She came by last night, brought us flowers. She stayed for dinner and talked to us for a while. She’s done more than anyone else here.

She can’t do it all alone, though. It’s not fair to expect one person to be able to do it all on a consistent basis. The grief is so huge, the hole left so unimaginably overwhelming…one person can’t fill the gap, especially not for all of us. I’m sure it’s just exhausting for her…draining.

I am so thankful for those who do anything! I’m trying to adopt Alina’s attitude…to notice and be thankful. I don’t want to be bitter.

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About Rebecca Carney - One Woman's Perspective

My name is Becky Carney. My husband, Joe, and I have been married for 42 years. We have two living children, Eric (38) and Jenna (33). We lost a baby in utero at 19 weeks in 1987. In 2002, our middle son, Jason (19), and his best friend, Alina (20), were broadsided by a drunk driver who was going at least twice the speed limit. They both died instantly. This blog is written from my perspective as a bereaved parent. I don't claim to know what it's like to walk in anyone else's shoes. Each situation is different; each person is different. Everyone handles grief differently. But if I can create any degree of understanding of what it's like to be a parent who has lost a child, then I have succeeded in my reason for writing this blog.

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