So many people are posting or emailing about 9/11, talking about 9/11, messaging on various social media networks about 9/11. So many programs on the TV, on the internet, in the newspapers are covering stories and remembrances of 9/11 from so every angle imaginable. Momentos. Pictures. Narratives. Interviews with family members, children, news reporters, firefighters. On and on. It’s everywhere. It hurts all over again.
It’s right to take time on this sober anniversary and remember. Remember those who died. Remember those heroes who worked so selflessly, trying to save lives. Remember the families of those who died. So many people…so many lives…so much loss…so much pain.
Some days you never forget. I remember the day President Kennedy was shot. I remember the day the space shuttle Challenger exploded. And I will never forget what happened on 9/11. It cut right to the very heart of our nation, our identities, our security. It affected our nation as little else has. It’s important to reflect on what this anniversary means to our country and how it changed all of us.
The 10 year anniversary of the death of our precious son is less than 6 months away – March 3, 2012. It, too, is a painful and sobering anniversary for our family on a very personal scale. I don’t mean to compare it to the grand scale of attack on America that the horrific anniversary of 9/11 represents. We, as a country, will never be the same. But, as the actions of a few terrorists pierced the heart of our country and tore away our innocence, shaking our nation to its core and changing us forever as a nation, so the actions of one person pierced the hearts of our family and those who knew and loved Jason and Alina, shattering our lives and breaking our hearts on a very personal and individual scale. Our lives will never be the same, either.
As we pause and remember those who lost their lives on 9/11 and also remember those families who lost dear loved ones on that day, I just feel like it’s important that we remember and take notice of those in our own sphere of influence who may be observing sad, painful anniversaries. There are those who, at some point in the next few months, want to hear that someone notices and cares that they are marking the anniversary of the death of a loved one. Take time to notice and observe that loss, too. Or maybe the birthday or another event concerning their loved one is approaching. Remember. Write a card. Make a call. Send flowers. Do something. Do something kind and practical for someone right in your own back yard. It makes a difference.
Remember: “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” Mark Twain [who was also a bereaved parent, by the way]
“I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.” William Penn